{"id":11350,"date":"2025-05-13T17:21:52","date_gmt":"2025-05-13T17:21:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.fitmotherproject.com\/?p=11350"},"modified":"2025-05-13T17:21:52","modified_gmt":"2025-05-13T17:21:52","slug":"how-to-fix-the-struggle-with-love-ep-152","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fitmotherproject.com\/how-to-fix-the-struggle-with-love-ep-152\/","title":{"rendered":"Why High Performers Struggle with Love\u2014and How to Fix It with Adam Lane Smith (Ep. 152)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Fit Mother Project Podcast Episode 152<\/a>. In this profound conversation, Dr. Anthony Balduzzi welcomes attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith to unpack how our early childhood experiences wire our nervous systems\u2014and how that wiring can shape everything from our health to our marriages. Adam explains the science and psychology of attachment theory, revealing why so many high-achieving parents silently suffer from emotional disconnection, loneliness, and self-sabotaging health behaviors.<\/span><\/p>\n

Listeners will learn about the three main insecure attachment styles\u2014avoidant, anxious, and mixed\u2014and how they show up in relationships, parenting, and health choices. Adam provides a visceral, relatable description of how these patterns develop, the havoc they can wreak, and how they can be completely healed through conscious effort, safe relationships, and nervous system regulation.<\/span><\/p>\n

But this episode isn\u2019t just theoretical. Dr. Balduzzi and Adam dive deep into the practical side: how women can build secure attachment through small, consistent steps, how fitness plays a critical role in rewiring the brain for connection, and how parents can start creating transformational moments with their kids\u2014without needing to be perfect.<\/span><\/p>\n

This episode will resonate with anyone who\u2019s ever felt disconnected despite doing everything \u201cright.\u201d It\u2019s a wake-up call for high performers, a roadmap for parents, and a love letter to those willing to do the inner work. Don\u2019t miss the insights that could quite literally transform your relationships\u2014and your life.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Key Takeaways:<\/b><\/h2>\n
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  • Early trauma wires nervous system dysfunction<\/li>\n
  • Avoidant = survival mode, overwork, disconnected<\/li>\n
  • Anxious = approval seeking, learned helplessness<\/li>\n
  • Secure = calm, connected, honest communication<\/li>\n
  • Attachment issues crush hormone balance<\/li>\n
  • Most divorces = anxious woman + avoidant man<\/li>\n
  • High performers often hide deep loneliness<\/li>\n
  • Nervous system dysregulation blocks oxytocin<\/li>\n
  • Healing begins with awareness and self-reflection<\/li>\n
  • Fixing attachment transforms your physiology<\/li>\n
  • Parents must become self-correcting, not perfect<\/li>\n
  • Fitness supports nervous system healing<\/li>\n
  • Kids model what they see, not what you say<\/li>\n
  • Transparency + feedback = secure relationships<\/li>\n
  • Your health habits are also love habits<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    Why High Performers Struggle with Love\u2014and How to Fix It with Adam Lane Smith (Ep. 152)<\/h2>\n